The Ultimate Self-Care & Success Hack
The most powerful act of self-love might be the simplest: saying "no" with your whole chest.
Have you seen Emma Grede making waves recently? The brilliant mind behind all the successful Kardashian brands went viral with something that has caused some controversy: the idea that it's not solely your company's responsibility to provide you with work-life balance.
As a wife, mother, and woman navigating a fresh career path, I couldn't agree more.
Here's the beautiful truth I've discovered: No one else can set your boundaries for you. That power — that responsibility — belongs entirely to you.
When work calls and I need to answer, I don't just see it as time away from my daughter. I'm teaching her something invaluable: that women can create meaningful lives beyond the home. That people count on Mama for her talents and contributions. That we can occupy space in the world with purpose.
When my little one has a milestone moment? I communicate clearly with my workplace that I'll be taking PTO (and will be completely unavailable). But I never leave them hanging — I create comprehensive coverage plans because I've built and empowered my team to thrive even in my absence. This isn't just about boundaries; it's about creating systems that honor all parts of my life.
Date nights with my husband aren't negotiable anymore. I gently explain to our daughter that these evenings nurture the love that created our family in the first place. That mommy and daddy need space to remain connected as partners, not just parents.
As women, we must learn to establish our boundaries with crystal clarity — and then stand 10 toes down in them.
A Confession From a Recovering People-Pleaser
My favorite word has become "No."
Every time it passes my lips, it reminds me that I've chosen myself, my desires, and my needs over someone else's demands. But that's not even the most fascinating part — watch carefully how people respond when they don't get their way. Their reaction tells you everything about who deserves space in your life.
Let's just say my circle has become considerably smaller (and more qualitative) over these past few years.
The most unexpected gift of boundary-setting has been the newfound respect flowing into every corner of my life. I've shed the fear of being cast as the villain. Now, I freely say:
"I'm not interested in doing that"
"This doesn't align with my goals"
And my personal favorite, delivered with a gentle smile: "No, because I don't have to."
Your Permission Slip
Setting boundaries creates sacred space for expectations to take shape. It allows your worth and value to multiply because you've established, with loving firmness, what you will and will not accept.
This, my beautiful friend, is the ultimate life hack for stepping into your power as a woman.
The revolution starts with your boundaries.
Where in your life do you need to establish a new boundary this week? Share in the comments below — I read and respond to every single one!
I need to set a firmer boundary around my evening screen time meaning no emails or scrolling after 9pm. I sleep and feel so much better when I stick to it.