What they don't tell you about being “THAT GIRL”

Let’s talk about the elephant in the room – or should I say, the perfectly organized, aesthetically pleasing, color-coordinated elephant that wakes up at 5am and drinks matcha.

We’ve all seen her. THAT GIRL. She’s the one flooding your FYP with her morning routine, her perfectly curated smoothie, and her effortlessly tousled hair that somehow looks like she just stepped out of a coffee shop.

But here’s the thing about becoming THAT GIRL! (and trust me, I’ve been there, done that, bought the overpriced t-shirt). There are some things the influencers conveniently forget to mention between their sponsored posts and their “authentic” morning routines:

It Can Feel Really, Really Lonely

Let’s start with the uncomfortable truth: being disciplined is isolating. While your friends are out getting bottomless mimosas at brunch, you’re at home meal-prepping and explaining why you can’t stay out past 10pm because you have a morning routine.

Your social calendar starts looking like a game of Tetris where you’re trying to fit fun into the perfectly structured blocks of your new lifestyle. Date nights mostly happen if it’s before 8pm and somewhere with good lighting for my skincare routine documentation. Or going on a Girls’ trip but bringing my own snacks and we need to find a hotel with a gym.

Also, people start treating you like you’re some sort of wellness alien. “Oh, you probably wouldn’t want this cake,” they’ll say, as if overnight you’ve developed an allergy to joy. Suddenly, you’re not just living differently – you’re living on a different planet where fun goes to die.

It’s Boring (And That’s Not Always a Bad Thing)

Here’s a revelation that’ll make your perfectly planned Pinterest board weep: routine can feel boring. The same green smoothie every morning. The same workout playlist. The same meditation app telling you to “breathe deeply” like you’ve forgotten how to perform basic human functions.

But, boring can be beautiful. There’s something oddly comforting about knowing exactly what your Tuesday looks like. No decision fatigue about what to eat for breakfast (it’s always the veggie omelet for me). No wondering if you’ll have time to work out (it’s already blocked in your color-coded calendar).

The monotony becomes your safety net. It’s like having a best friend who never cancels plans and always shows up – except that friend is your own discipline, and she’s surprisingly reliable once you get to know her.

It’s an Investment (That Your Bank Account Will Feel)

Nobody talks about the startup costs of becoming “THAT GIRL.” Suddenly, you need a $200 blender for your morning smoothies, $80 leggings that promise to change your life, and a subscription to every wellness app known to womankind.

Your grocery bill starts looking like you’re feeding a small army of very health-conscious soldiers. Organic this, grass-fed that, adaptogens that cost more per ounce than your rent. You’ll find yourself justifying a $12 bottle of moon water because “it’s an investment in your wellness journey.”

Don’t even get me started on the equipment. Yoga mats, resistance bands, foam rollers, essential oil diffusers, blue light blocking glasses, and enough supplements to stock a small pharmacy. Your Amazon cart becomes a museum of good intentions and questionable financial decisions.

But the thing about investments is that the good ones pay dividends. This one pays in energy, confidence, and the secret superpower of actually following through on things you say you’re going to do.

You Will Not Regret It (Even When You Want to Quit)

Here’s the truth that makes all the loneliness, boredom, and investment worth it: you will not regret becoming the person who shows up for herself. Even on the days when you want to throw your alarm clock out the window and order pizza for breakfast, you won’t regret it.

There’s something magical that happens when you prove to yourself that you can be trusted. When you say you’re going to wake up early, and you actually do it. When you commit to drinking more water, and you actually follow through. When you decide to prioritize your mental health, and you actually make time for it.

You start walking differently. Talking differently. Making decisions from a place of strength rather than scarcity. People notice, but more importantly, you notice. You become the protagonist of your own life instead of a supporting character in everyone else’s story.

The girl who couldn’t stick to anything becomes the woman who can stick to everything.

Your future self is already thanking you.

What’s your biggest challenge in your THAT GIRL journey? Drop a comment below and let’s yap!